Tuesday, May 18, 2010

The Death of Disappointment



Don't cry over spilled milk. Awww. Why not? Once upon a time I would have vociferously defended all the emotions that are associated with disappointment. This was during a time when my prime directive was all about authenticity. If one FEELS disappointed, then masking, ignoring or turning one's back on that emotion would be wrong.

Ah the mind. Maybe I should say ahhh MY mind. I can rationalize just about anything, I can. And make it sound (at least in my own head) completely right and proper.

I'm older these days (as I am continually saying here). These days what I think is that life is short and though sometimes it's not possible to avoid petty disappointments, MOST of the time it's completely doable as well as utterly authentic, to turn away from the vortex of that set of emotions, open the heart to some other way of being.

I'm not talking about great overarching grief or terrible regret or anything serious like that. I'm referring here to spilled milk, or as they spelled it on wikidictionary, "spilt" milk. Things don't always work out as they're supposed to. So what?

When I think of all the time I've invested in small disappointments, I'm kind of amazed. For heaven's sake.

25 comments:

Reya Mellicker said...

I've pulled the 5 of cups from the tarot every day for the last week, alongside cards like the Tower, or Death, or runes that refer to the same kind of energies, in other words, the end of that way of being. Thinking about it a lot.

ellen abbott said...

well, that's intriguing. onwards and upwards.

Val said...

I know nothing about this but am learning about the upcoming Cosmic Cross and isnt this what that is all about - the end of a way of being, and big changes? also thinking about it a lot right now x

Mrsupole said...

Don't cry over spilt milk, just grab the cloth, clean it up, and move on to the next thing.

I think it kinda refers to something similar to "carpe diem", only with this one it is seize the new moment coming up and once something is done it is done and cannot be undone, so quit worrying about it and move on to something better.

There are so many sayings that we were told as kids. We should have a "Remember the sayings day" or something like that where we all try to write down one or two saying we were told. And we cannot repeat one that someone before us wrote. That would be fun.

I think the one my mom used to tell us the most was, "If everyone else jumps off the cliff, are you going to follow them?" Telling that one to a Leo is like putting icing on the cake. I would always tell her that Leo's never follow, they always lead. She always got a big kick out of that answer. Now I tell it to the grandkids.

God bless.

The Bug said...

I've always been one for my small dramas - it makes my otherwise rather mundane life more interesting. And I try to make fun of the drama. But you're right - I could spend that energy doing something a little more uplifting for sure!

NanU said...

The thing is the small disappointments don't seem so small at the time. Like the hill just in front of you; they block the view of the mountains beyond.

Reya Mellicker said...

The Cosmic Cross? Wow. Googling that right now! Thanks Val.

And Mrsupole, thank you. And Bug and NanU, yes and yes and yes again. Something is shifting for me, though. The cards are shouting the message very loudly, but it hasn't clicked just yet. Hmmmm....

Reya Mellicker said...

The following is from one of many webistes describing the cosmic cross:

There will be a series of Grand Crosses in the summer of 2010 –one of which occurs a few days after the solstice, with seven planets participating. ... This will give the solstice period — already considered a sacred portal for many spiritual thinkers, ancient and modern — the quality of a bulls-eye.

Wow. The last time there was a grand cross was the summer when I was torched by the witch camp community. My ass still hurts from that experience. OK. I see.

Onwards & upwards indeed!!

Reya Mellicker said...

websites ... hate typos

California Girl said...

good post title; it certainly caught my attention.

you're right, waste of time. and i'm the queen of this, angst over bs. i have spent years telling myself

"Don't sweat the small stuff"

as one of my early bosses used to say. so hard when you're a worrier as am I.

getting older does bring wisdom, tho'. you're right about that too.

Reya Mellicker said...

I, too, have a history as a great worrier. I'm thinking about giving up that habit. Certainly I've done enough worrying for one lifetime. Ya know?

Ronda Laveen said...

I just don't have the energy any more to expend on all the small stuff. Or, more precisely, I don't care to spend my energy buck in that way any longer.

Hope you don't have to cya during this Cosmic Cross.

Reya Mellicker said...

I like grand crosses. They bring lots of energy. But I have lots of oppositions and squares in my chart, so great intensity seems normal to me.

Tom said...

don't know a thing about the stars or charts or cards, but trump beats an ace, and who knows if things are supposed to work out as they're supposed to, they always work out, one way or another...now if only this lousy rain would work its way out of my vacinity...

ewix said...

Being disappointed in things and people....
plotting not exactly revenge but something like it

worrying about stuff that may never happen

now realising that there are lots of things I will never do ........and it's OK.

Hm.....portals

I do feel as if change is about to happen.
This does sound a bit rambly and silly.

ps pretty small ( probably expensive) houses in DC looking remarkably yummy.....
so when is the Bolt Bus bringing you in our direction?

Linda Sue said...

I have checked in with friends who pay attention and yes, all confirm a feeling of electric change, major decision making, a letting go of the past, of restriction governed by the past, of disappointments of wrong turns made,...yes, we all concur- Change is afoot and it feels GOOD!

Mary Ellen said...

Intriguing stuff, here. I think I've made some progress in minimizing the presence of regret (and it's first cousin, envy) from my consciousness. Partly, I can't hold quite so many things in my mind at a time anymore - so, let's focus on . . . getting going for the day, getting to bed on time, keeping up with my e-mail (!!! as if !!!). I'll be looking for manifestations of the cosmic cross.

Reya Mellicker said...

Yep. It's all good news.

My astrologer friend Fern tells me this afternoon that the position of the 7 planets in the grand cross is very interesting. Pluto has not been in the sign of Capricorn since the American REvolutionary War, and the other planets have not been aligned like this since the 1960's.

Paradigm shift, y'all!! Bring it!

lakeviewer said...

Stress literally sends your adrenalin false signals, which contributes to diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, etc..
Don't fret, don't bend down to clean up either. Throw the towel over the mess, mop it up with your foot while you enjoy a cappuccino. Better yet, let somebody else clean it up.

You're worried about all the change coming up with your moving plans. It will all be behind you soon enough.

steven said...

reya i appreciate the link through to the info about the cardinal cross years. i've had a strong sense of a specific kind of work i have to be engaged in this year - ive known it was coming for three years. it's weird to know that change of that magnitude and quality is coming like that but you've known it yourself so i know i'm not alone. it's really cool actually. have a peaceful dc evening. steven

janis said...

Awe yes! And a big Ditto to what Mrsupole had to say!

C.M. Jackson said...

look forward and believe in the possibilities--forget about age and what is past----you have many miles to travel---

Natalie said...

Bring it ON! I say.

Steve said...

The key to managing disappointment, at least for me, is to realize that whatever set me up for disappointment, whatever was going on in my brain, was never real. Clearly I had some expectations, and the world didn't meet them. They were only vapors, wisps of neural messages. So let them go and work with what IS real, what's really happening. You know?

Reya Mellicker said...

I don't know what's "really" happening, but I do know about vapors, oh yeah!