Today will be another day of working with family souls. The people involved will feel different, though - if today is like T-day Sundays of past years. The L-triptophan stupor is lifting, and folks are now more focused on getting home without having to be overly humiliated while moving through security at the airports, than on the recently concluded sacred family dramas.
Sunday of T-day weekend is a kind of denoument, when people wrap up the energy that's been unleashed. Today they'll be thinking more about whether, when they get home, they will lick their wounds or take it out on someone else (depending on whether they're inclined more towards the fight than the flight response).
My job is more or less the same: stay grounded and cheerful, remind these once-a-year clients that all the sturm und drang of family get-togethers is grist for the mill. As Steven says, "The natural messiness of clusters of people is the essence of family, not the smooth as silk dreaminess of a movie or a tv family. It's the messiness that helps us figure out the early bits of who we are and especially where we need to move."
Amen!
And ... when holiday weekends are over, it's such a relief! Even for me, She Who Supports those dealing with the messiness. The holidays generate a whole lot of energy, oh yeah! Shalom.
7 comments:
I would love to have a few more days to relax before getting back to work but my 'off' is your 'on' so enjoy the 'off' while you can. Well, for that matter, enjoy the 'on' too.
I get a kick out of almost all of it these days, Gary!
of course reya - there's messiness and then their's messiness! you know that as well as anyone!!! i'm reassured when i read other people's memories, reminiscences, and unpackings of their family that i wasn't the only one who struggled in a family i was convinced wasn't really mine and then despite all that found not only peace but most importantly a better understanding of why i needed all that stuff and crap chucked my way at an early age. when i look back, i do believe that my parents took the biggest hit of all by actually having children!! that was their big learning and it let their souls move onwards and outwards a whole lot faster! that in turn let me move on. kids as crucible. oh yeah!!! i'm thankful to have been a part of it. peace in all its fullness! steven
Hi Reya, thanks for sharing steven's wisdom about families. Families do indeed show us how we need to evolve; family members do that vital work for us, and even though they do not always do this work with the utmost of tact, they're often spot-on about locating the material we need to work on.
I could do a whole blog based on Steven's comments. What a genius!!
We have a rapidly moving stomach flu on top of all the crazy family energy. Whew.
I love the idea of the unleashed energy being wrapped up...
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