Monday, March 4, 2013

Life goes on

I was at a dinner party last night with friends and their kids. The three kids are between one and two years old. I remember dinner parties with these people before they married each other. Oh my, those parties were quite different. Last night it was a cacophony of toys and "how cute!" and parents cajoling the toddlers into showing off, i.e. "Can you say 'Reya'?"

Five years ago a party with these people would have included a lot more adult talk. Everyone would have stayed later. Last night the party broke up around 8:30 because the kids became fussy and needed to go home and be put to bed.

In five years, gathering with these beloved friends will involve a lot of yelling at the kids. What is cute at age 1-1/2 is no longer adorable at age 6. The kids will have become territorial by then, so fights will inevitably break out. The parents will be doing that thing of saying, "I'm going to count to three ..." etc. The kids will be yelling, "Hey mom! Watch this!" A dinner party with these people in five years will be very noisy.

Five years after that, the kids will have no interest in hanging out with the parents. They will sequester themselves in a room with a TV or will all settle down with their electronic devices.

Last night I was thinking that in ten years I'll be moving into middle old age. I wonder where I'll be and what I'll be doing. Will I still be hanging out with these friends and their kids? Will I still be doing bodywork? Will I still be living in the chateau?

Sixty was such a big birthday, I couldn't think past it until now. It's kind of like the way, while growing up, I tried to imagine the year 2000 but seriously never considered the world beyond the new millenium.

Who knows what I'll be up to, or even if I'll still be alive? Anything could happen. And anyway, what's my rush? Be here now, Reya, be here now.


ellen abbott said...

be here now is right. I try not to plan much beyond several days. even when I do, the plans must be changed as things rarely progress the way you imagine they will. I was not looking forward to 60. but here I am, going to be 63 this year, and it's really just a continuation of the 50s. now I find myself dreading the 70s. silly.

Reya Mellicker said...

We are silly, aren't we?

Steve Reed said...

Exactly! Be here now is a good mantra. :)

Rose ~ from Oz said...

We are silly but still, there is something about numbers. 60 was a huge thing for you Reya - and for me it will be turning 56 next month, as the sobering thought occurred to me that this will herald that I am 'officially' closer to 60 than 50. Mmmm.

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judy in ky said...

When I was in grade school, I tried to imagine the year 2000 too. When I realized I would be in my 50s, I thought I would be too old to be doing much. Now that I'm in my sixties, I can't imagine what I will be doing ten years from now either. I feel like my identity has gone away with my younger years. I haven't adjusted to the new one yet.