Sunday, February 14, 2010

Cupid's Revenge



Happy Valentine's Day! Enjoy your chocolate, snuggle up with your lover or partner or husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend, yes? I say YES.

Mid-February is a great time to celebrate a holiday of love. Love generates heat and energy, both of which are much needed at this time of year if you live in the northern hemisphere. As cold and snowy as February can be, it is the very beginning of spring mating season for birds, sheep, goats and other animals. Because we humans are also animals, we catch the vibe, too. Oh yeah.

Romance has never been my best thing, sadly. I was good at falling in love, once upon a time, but never great at staying in love. That idea of "till death do us part"? I never got it. I was unable to promise to be monogamous, even in marriage. Oh dear how those hormones bedeviled me! Yikes.

Now, in middle age, it's quite likely that I could be a really solid and serious partner, though given my advanced age of 57 (!!) it's quite likely I'll never get a chance to try. Hey. I'm not feeling sorry for myself, not at all. What I'm actually feeling today is a sweet tenderness for all of you out there who somehow were able to mate and stay mated. I salute you all! Bravo and brava!!

A toast to love! Cheers!

18 comments:

ellen abbott said...

Estrogen can certainly be a devil.

Don't give up Reya...you make your own reality. Now that you are ready for it it just may come your way.

lakeviewer said...

Happy Valentine's Day Reya. Love is being at peace in the universe. Somehow, we are not enough with that, always searching, always anxious. Truth is right before our eyes, all the time.

steven said...

hey reya! funny that - you reach a place in your life where everything feels comfortable and right and good and almost harmonious and it's "too late" by some standards but by your / my own it's actually really great and you can let what's meant to be be! sweet dc day reya. steven

Linda Sue said...

Forget about ideal relationships- I don't think they really exist- they are like airbrushed models...The best realtionship is with...DOG!

Deborah said...

one never knows what life will bring
i salute you
and love you with all my heart

Nancy said...

I think if you wanted to attract a mate, you are certainly capable of doing that. But living a life well-lived and self contained is just as beautiful. You wear your individuality and independence very well. Happiness comes from being comfortable in our own skin - you do it with panache!

tut-tut said...

Never say never, dearie!

Hecate said...

I love that snow sculpture! Blessed Lupercalia!

Reya Mellicker said...

To you, too, Hecate. Is he listening to an ipod or are those earmuffs? It's a big controversy in the 'hood.

Linda Sue: I DID do the "till death do you part" thing with my dog. Is that great or kind of creepy? Who knows?

California Girl said...

My hormones drove me for years and, wow, was I ever trying to keep them in check. Getting divorced took care of that. But now? Well, I'm a year older than you and I just don't care that much any longer. When I think of love, I no longer think of sex. I just think of having a compatible partner with whom I can laugh and have fun. I see why you feel you could now be the partner you might not have been in your youth. It's really about companionship isn't it?

The Bug said...

After my mom died my dad (aged 64) married a woman in his singing group (aged 79). Four years later they're doing just fine. Just FYI.

Meri said...

The heat in my bed comes from a heating pad. Damn!

Ronda Laveen said...

I think the Snow Geek is wearing ear muffs. I don't think interspecies relationships are creepy. No, no, not at all. I just met a couple the other day who had just gotten married...both in their 80s. Not sure I see the point at that age but, that's just me.

Love to you too, birthday girl.

Gary said...

Happy Valentine's Day Reya. Ah, hormones...

Angela said...

I agree with Nancy, you can be happy either way.
With us, it worked. Why? Can`t tell you. But I`m sure it can happen at any age. My mother found a boyfriend at 70, and my father remarried at 75 (is now ninety and happy). What`s age anyway? You are still a chick, Reya!

Mrsupole said...

It is never too late for whatever you want. What is meant to be will be.

A dog or cat will give someone unconditional love and what more can anyone ask for. If our relationships were that easy then staying married would be easy. It is not, it is a lot of hard work and is it worth it, who knows, some will say yes and some will say no. I guess it just depends.

Maybe to have a relationship with someone means you have to open up yourself to the chance that it might not succeed, but then that is the chance we all take, no matter what our age. So I say if that is what you want then it will happen if you let it. Just go for it, just do it.

God bless.

Reya Mellicker said...

California Girl: exactly!

I also think there are people who are the "marrying" type and others who just don't fit the paradigm. Of course if you're the marrying type, it would make sense to do so at age 80 or any age.

Thanks for all thoughts and insights. My blog friends are so smart, it always blow my mind.

Susan said...

And then there are those of us who say "marriage? why?"
Living in long-term sin suits me well at the moment, though I'm open to a contract if at some point we both like the idea.
Love, in whatever clothes you put it, comes around when you're ready for it, Reya.
Never say never - since tomorrow you may be blogging about the incredible person you just met who blew all your assumptions out of the water!
I met mine and I must say it was the nicest surprise ever.