tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post8357967579343495699..comments2023-10-11T03:49:53.934-04:00Comments on The Gold Puppy: Emotional Immunity?Reya Mellickerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-80827335754008150672011-07-09T21:29:25.169-04:002011-07-09T21:29:25.169-04:00It's too bad the emotional immune system doesn...It's too bad the emotional immune system doesn't have a valve on it to prevent both backups and flooding. I guess that's where logic and reasoning are supposed to come in, but sometimes it's awfully difficult to find a balance between everything that is "just right."Cyndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787927933858782267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-28111969662106125202011-07-09T16:49:14.748-04:002011-07-09T16:49:14.748-04:00I suspect that part of it has to do with fully acc...I suspect that part of it has to do with fully accepting your shadow side and forgiving yourself for the perceived imperfections. It also has to do with learning to feel the sad feelings without intellectual interference. . . being sad when your heart has been wounded. . . and remembering that all things (good and bad) are mutable and impermanent.Merihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07024443046207501650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-61607495345768778222011-07-09T15:54:15.863-04:002011-07-09T15:54:15.863-04:00Yes Bug - Mike and I are soul sins, definitely.Yes Bug - Mike and I are soul sins, definitely.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-67360964854772363062011-07-09T15:53:12.236-04:002011-07-09T15:53:12.236-04:00The immune system learns? Now THAT is cool. I alwa...The immune system learns? Now THAT is cool. I always learn from you Rebecca. The Tao of Goldilocks is my biggest life lesson - one I apparently must leArn over and over again.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-32800777994795418992011-07-09T14:10:29.617-04:002011-07-09T14:10:29.617-04:00You and Dr. M are so much alike in this way. I don...You and Dr. M are so much alike in this way. I don't know if it's better that I have all these compartments to put things in until I feel whole enough to deal with them, but it does make me able to go to work, be pleasant, and generally function in life without too much pain. But there's that sneaky eating thing, so maybe it's not working so well for me after all. Food for thought. Pun intended.The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-85645783170297146922011-07-09T11:37:26.213-04:002011-07-09T11:37:26.213-04:00A thoughtful, serious post.
I still think it's...A thoughtful, serious post.<br />I still think it's better to be open to potential hurt than to close yourself off.....but I think your sense of self-worth is either innate or build up by your family in earliest childhood.<br /><br />That said, I do not deal with rejection well and mope about it for ever, and think bad thoughts about the people who fail to be enchanted by me....<br />oh dear!<br /><br />Better to be buffeted by fate than to be frozen!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03964291132366262298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-52446950674687800022011-07-09T10:55:28.048-04:002011-07-09T10:55:28.048-04:00Maybe your answer is in the metaphor you've ch...Maybe your answer is in the metaphor you've chosen. The immune system is a powerful, messy, dangerous thing. It often hurts when it's working--fevers, runny nose, boils--all kill and expel invaders, but they hurt while they're doing it. <br /><br />Sometimes the immune system attacks self or reacts to something harmless--autoimmune diseases like rheumatoid arthritis, anaphylactic shock, hives, allergies....Also, the immune system learns from experience, a very cool biochemical thing.<br /><br />The thing I'm grooving on from your post is "What would Goldilocks do?" I've puzzled over that story since I was little, and you've given me a whole new way to think about it.Rebecca Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494730619850791609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-44336907063177999062011-07-09T09:32:12.597-04:002011-07-09T09:32:12.597-04:00reya - i've got no answers for that one. i mov...reya - i've got no answers for that one. i move into social groups, immersing myself entirely and then leave. almost entirely. i know people who can hold friendships from the first day of school to the present. i look back with love on those sudden flarings and with equal love on their just as sudden retreat. like flowers that open and close with the sun. in the course of those flarings, i am entirely vulnerable and open to whatever joys and sorrows and hurts accrue to the connection. i'm not good with hurt until it is long past. then i can see its value. i think that emotional immunity might grow if it attaches itself to the understanding that relationship with anything, let alone anyone, is impermanent in some respects and permanent in others. stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-60234198709164171462011-07-09T09:11:11.253-04:002011-07-09T09:11:11.253-04:00You've got me wondering (as you so often do). ...You've got me wondering (as you so often do). I have a very open heart but a very weak immune system...jeanette from everton terracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02025486213973874174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-53482978785643520012011-07-09T09:00:54.766-04:002011-07-09T09:00:54.766-04:00And it was after that that I closed my heart.And it was after that that I closed my heart.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-37028145512387285152011-07-09T09:00:07.572-04:002011-07-09T09:00:07.572-04:00The same thing happened to me!The same thing happened to me!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-88623780125833444652011-07-09T08:59:16.115-04:002011-07-09T08:59:16.115-04:00Wish I could help you out. Some years back the so...Wish I could help you out. Some years back the social group I was in sort of booted me to the door. Might not have been permanent but the whole group dissolved aftter that. I wonder if perhaps it couldn't sustain itself after such focused meanness. I was pulling away some anyway because they had turned that focused rejection on someone else who I still considered a friend. Anyway, what I mean to say is that, once I understood what lay at the core of their actions towards me it was much easier to bear and to let go but at the time it hurt terribly. The first thing I did was to get rid of everything I had that was given to me by any of them or that reminded me of them. I purged my house as it were. One thing that came of that was that I finally realized that one member of the group didn't like me, had never liked me no matter how many times he had said or indicated otherwise. Wow.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.com