tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post5906471689531586223..comments2023-10-11T03:49:53.934-04:00Comments on The Gold Puppy: Hospice for RelationshipsReya Mellickerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-79837811712755403872012-07-15T08:34:04.671-04:002012-07-15T08:34:04.671-04:00YES - I too was thinking about jobs, living situat...YES - I too was thinking about jobs, living situations, cities. So many kinds of hospice would serve us. Wow.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-28712633421914115812012-07-14T18:29:57.660-04:002012-07-14T18:29:57.660-04:00I agree with you Reya. And the same can be applied...I agree with you Reya. And the same can be applied to our relationship with our job. Case in point: I've been teaching at my current school for 6 years. It was good at first, but things have gotten stale there. I hope to get assigned to another school. In the meantime, let me be mindful to end things on GOOD terms, and see that I did have a few good years there. No bitterness. No drama. Just growth.nerima robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16397000496676038137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-456031167208944112012-07-14T12:15:05.547-04:002012-07-14T12:15:05.547-04:00Very good and thoughtful post. Learning to let go,...Very good and thoughtful post. Learning to let go, and learning when to let go would make our lives easier, wouldn't they? I still grieve for relationships lost because we couldn't let go easily but had to grip tightly until we finally broke apart. And the bitterness and acrimony I felt afterward stole the things that were beautiful about the relationship in the beginning. <br /><br />Perhaps all that anger is a defense, so that the loss isn't so painful? But at some point, I want once again to own the good things in my past, and so I'm working on the whole forgiveness thing, and letting go peacefully.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-53913110022746822482012-07-13T20:30:35.975-04:002012-07-13T20:30:35.975-04:00Thank god for you, Pam. I mean that sincerely.Thank god for you, Pam. I mean that sincerely.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-70395573954737781122012-07-13T19:04:41.334-04:002012-07-13T19:04:41.334-04:00This subject has been right up there on my learnin...This subject has been right up there on my learning curve Reya. Have learnt to never go on about a previous partners faults to the heartbroken, they often get back together again.<br /> In fact, much was said to me when partner and I went our separate ways in our twenties, and we have now been married for over thirty years. Guess there are a few who wished they'd bit their tongue.<br />I have in fact sincerely said recently of two dear close friends your stated "oh it was a beautiful coupling, how sad that it's now finished", but of course, it hadn't. <br />Maybe once the divorce papers are signed sealed and delivered on the table one can feel free to truly let loose.<br />Luckily for me, I've always liked my daughter's boyfriends - I'm sure I'd be more vitriolic if there was one who was unbearable or chronically unsuitable, but her judgement is pretty good, and now I guess I have no say in it at all.<br />Relationships, when you think of it, can make or break your day, and of course have a ripple-on effect to other members of a group. It is almost that we have an obligation to play nice, even on that ultimate departure - and my daughter having experience with palliative nursing, there are some fine stories about bad behaviour around that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-68422575065083534562012-07-13T17:22:15.809-04:002012-07-13T17:22:15.809-04:00I was thinking about friendships, too.
Also the a...I was thinking about friendships, too.<br /><br />Also the anti-choice people. ScaryReya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-41585538316264277602012-07-13T16:15:12.571-04:002012-07-13T16:15:12.571-04:00I know, right? Religion has so much influence in ...I know, right? Religion has so much influence in both those instances. the fear of death that religion instills in people with the big emphasis on sin and punishment leads to the idea that any life is better than no life and so they prolong the suffering of people that are dying. and they will die, there is no stopping that. same with marriage. it is god given and the vows are 'until death do you part' so if a relationship runs it course, like friendships often do, then it must be a failure. two more things religion has fucked up. so much better to accept the inevitable, to let go, move on, ease the passing of death of life or death of relationship.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.com