tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post4288360111290222597..comments2023-10-11T03:49:53.934-04:00Comments on The Gold Puppy: The Other WomanReya Mellickerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-26761956273103847482013-06-21T03:37:18.410-04:002013-06-21T03:37:18.410-04:00Before i when to my summer holiday i was having a ...Before i when to my summer holiday i was having a miss understanding with my husband,a day after my marriage my husband was having an affair with another woman i known all their movement i just feit that it as just a joke i never knew that my husband was having an affair,one day i called husband on a phone another woman pick the call and she was insulting me on the phone that i should leave her husband for her that i am disturbing their relationship this is the same man that i got married to i am so confuse i do not known what to do i need some one to device me on how i can get my husband back because i do not want to lose my husband for any reason he is the right man for me and thats why i get married to he..I told a very good friend of mine about what i am passing through she promise to help to and that was how i meant great zuba a spell caster that help me win back my husband i never believe in love spell but great zuba prove it to me and that was how i won back my husband and now i am leaving well with my family,save that your relationship today by emailing this great man at greatzuba@gmail.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06790973653789135746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-81244886685514040072012-03-22T01:31:16.757-04:002012-03-22T01:31:16.757-04:00I've got enough in my past to feel ashamed of,...I've got enough in my past to feel ashamed of, but I love where I am. I even love (most days) WHO I am. I wouldn't be who I am now if I hadn't made those choices then. Do I wish that I had done some things differently (or not at all)? Sure. But that wish is in retrospect because it's coming from the current me, the one who gained wisdom from those very choices/mistakes. I couldn't do things any differently then because I wasn't who I would be. And I wouldn't be who I am now if I had done things any differently then. Shame is such a heavy load. Let's face it, I'm too lazy to carry more than I have to.<br />As for truth, I think you're right. It does change. It's really all about perception. I'm hesitant to speak a knowingly hurtful truth because I know that it may not be long before I change my mind. Or maybe it's just that I really dislike conflict. I also think that truth is too easily twisted and dishonesty easily justified. And I am so happy I don't drink anymore. At least now if I lie I can remember it! Of course, now that I don't drink I don't have anything very exciting to lie about...Whitney Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766231420593480962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-32890215726730722722012-03-20T19:05:34.083-04:002012-03-20T19:05:34.083-04:00I believe I might feel better, if I let go of sham...I believe I might feel better, if I let go of shame, but if it is reminding me to behave better, now, I'm not sure the world would be better if I let it go.....<br /><br />It's my understanding that some people feel shame for things they cannot help. Being too tall?<br /><br />That shame should go, I totally agree.<br /><br />But remembering something we chose to do, that we probably knew at the time was bad behavior, and being ashamed of that behavior? <br /><br />I'm not sure it's good to let that go.I need orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819543886910857718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-70029679758081773882012-03-19T13:58:02.515-04:002012-03-19T13:58:02.515-04:00I think the world all around and within you would ...I think the world all around and within you would improve by letting go of shame. My goal: when I make a mistake, I must make amends and learn from the experience. To continue to punish myself emotionally serves no purpose. What a waste of time. Life is short!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-54719388002651647232012-03-19T11:00:24.863-04:002012-03-19T11:00:24.863-04:00I actually am about radical honesty.
Like many im...I actually am about radical honesty.<br /><br />Like many important things (thinking of very sharp knives, and hammers), honesty is easy to abuse. <br /><br />My intent is to never say anything that isn't true, to not lie about anything important by omission, and to try to say important things I know will be hard to hear in a way that can be heard.....<br /><br />Not that I always succeed. I have a hard time softening my truth when I am angry at drivers for nearly mashing me, in the crosswalk, when it is MY right of way.............. And I suppose I don't know for SURE that they are morons, despite the evidence............<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />I, too, wrestle with shame.<br /><br />Many bad things I've done can't be fixed. Is anything gained by being ashamed of them? Beyond being reminded not to do those things ever again? I don't know. But maybe that's enough reason to feel the shame? I'm still working on this.................<br /><br />I might feel better if I wasn't ashamed, but would that be right? Would that make the world better? I don't know.......... But I kind of doubt it.I need orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819543886910857718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-35153692852025885362012-03-19T10:23:43.078-04:002012-03-19T10:23:43.078-04:00I did the same Reya, well, jumping in with both fe...I did the same Reya, well, jumping in with both feet into the sex, drugs and rock and roll. I usually tried to stay away from guys who were 'attached'. I thought it was unfair to the other woman. my way of protecting my sisters I guess. and besides, there were so many unattached men out there. I wonder if my own promiscuity was karmic based.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-66517977994781284742012-03-18T21:20:36.968-04:002012-03-18T21:20:36.968-04:00What I'm interested in, at age 59, is letting ...What I'm interested in, at age 59, is letting go of shame. When I can do it sincerely its such a relief. Should I be ashamed of my mistakes and failures? I think I've had enough of that. Yeah.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-85171595622057786792012-03-18T21:01:01.768-04:002012-03-18T21:01:01.768-04:00it is a journey--sounds like you have had quite th...it is a journey--sounds like you have had quite the adventure...I love your honesty and outlook...C.M. Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936560662110633442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-88558253086659160272012-03-18T18:17:55.022-04:002012-03-18T18:17:55.022-04:00What a post!!! I can identify on oh so many levels...What a post!!! I can identify on oh so many levels... I just want to forget about all my mistakes.Cheryl Catohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294358830518520566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-84481945851243057872012-03-18T12:33:50.118-04:002012-03-18T12:33:50.118-04:00Thanks Val.
You too Orange. Thanks! We humans ar...Thanks Val. <br /><br />You too Orange. Thanks! We humans are dishonest in so many ways. I am not about radical honesty by any means. I've seen those people wield their philosophy only in order to hurt others. <br /><br />Denial is a very potent type of dishonesty that can be protective - to a point. My mother used to say, "When you're unhappy, just pretend you are happy. Pretty soon you will be happy. <br /><br />Whoa. She died of a broken heart. No surprise there!<br /><br />To me honesty is not black and white, not ever.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-74625529503052238532012-03-18T11:35:22.089-04:002012-03-18T11:35:22.089-04:00we humans are fallible and curious, and here to wo...we humans are fallible and curious, and here to work it all out. seems you are well ahead on that one. love your blog Reya, thanks xValhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060531713032236270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-18267678191852338242012-03-18T11:33:14.219-04:002012-03-18T11:33:14.219-04:00Sneaking around and lying IS dishonest.
If protec...Sneaking around and lying IS dishonest.<br /><br />If protecting people from hurt were the goal, the way to do that would be to refrain from behavior that would hurt them, rather than doing it anyway and then sneaking around and lying and hoping they don't find out.<br /><br />It feels dishonest because it IS dishonest.........<br /><br /><br /><br />Also grateful to be POST all that!I need orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819543886910857718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-47440822950205068092012-03-18T11:14:21.907-04:002012-03-18T11:14:21.907-04:00I love being post everything!I love being post everything!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-27883285159035936362012-03-18T11:14:16.464-04:002012-03-18T11:14:16.464-04:00I love being post everything!I love being post everything!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2607471777855707790.post-208588782388204252012-03-18T10:37:10.814-04:002012-03-18T10:37:10.814-04:00My darling, you are honest indeed.
And you do have...My darling, you are honest indeed.<br />And you do have so much karmic energy --energy in spades. Gosh. Do hope one day you get to a very calm place (don't mean dead --just tranquil!) You are a very questing person which is a good thing.<br />So thrilling be POSTeverything.....Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03964291132366262298noreply@blogger.com